How to Build a Coaching Business Your Way When You've Been Forcing Yourself to Fit Someone Else's Model You're working hard. Pushing through. But there's a tension underneath the work that never fully goes away. A low hum of stress you've stopped noticing because it's been there so long. And if someone asked you what was wrong, you'd probably say: I think the problem is me. It isn't. To build a coaching business your way, you have to stop forcing yourself into a shape that was never yours. Most coaches who are struggling aren't doing the wrong work. They're doing the right work in the wrong hole. And the longer they push, the more they assume the peg is the...
How to Age Well: 7 Pillars Every Coach Needs to Know I recently sat down with someone who completely reframed how I think about getting older. Dr. Gillian Lockitch is a specialist physician, Professor Emerita, and the host of the Growing Older Living Younger podcast. She launched that podcast on her 76th birthday, after emergency spinal surgery sent her on a deep exploration of epigenetics and what she could do to change her aging at the cellular level. She turned 80 last year. And honestly, talking to her, you wouldn't know it. What struck me most about our conversation was not the science, though the science is fascinating. It was her absolute conviction that we are not passengers in...
Imposter Syndrome for Coaches: The Moving Goalpost Nobody Talks About You Are Already Further Along Than You Think When was the last time you stopped and took stock of everything you have actually built? Not the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Not the list of things you haven't done yet. The actual inventory - everything you have done, learned, built, survived, created, tried, figured out. Most of the people I work with have never really done this. The Client Story She came to the session feeling stuck. Not dramatically stuck - she was still showing up, still working, still making things happen. But there was a low hum of not enough....
How to Overcome Mental Blocks and Unlock Your True Performance Potential I recently had one of those conversations that makes me want to share everything I learned as quickly as possible. My guest was Dr. Tom Rohrer, director of the Brain and Body Performance Center in Colorado Springs, and a mental performance coach, psychotherapist, and trainer who works primarily with athletes and public performers. What he shared about why we get stuck and how to get unstuck is directly applicable to coaches and entrepreneurs, and it is far more accessible than most people expect. Tom opened with something that I think a lot of coaches need to hear: almost no one makes it to adulthood without some version of what...
How to Stand Out as a Coach (Stop Apologizing for Your Depth) The Depth You’ve Been Apologizing For Is Your Differentiator How many times have you started to say something and then pulled back? Softened it. Made it sound more like what you thought someone wanted to hear. Maybe it was in your bio. Maybe in a sales conversation. Maybe in a piece of content you almost published and then rewrote until it sounded safer. The thing you keep editing out is usually the thing people need most. You’ve Been Editing Out the Real Thing For a long time, I described what I do as: I help people start and build coaching businesses. That isn’t wrong. But it...
