“What if I make an offer… and I get rejected?”
This fear stops so many new and experienced coaches dead in their tracks. Rejection feels scary. The idea of hearing “no” can be paralyzing.
But here’s the truth: getting your next yes is inevitable if you keep going.
In this post, I’ll share:
- How to detach from outcomes and trust the process
- A real story of a no turning into a yes
- How to reframe rejection so it doesn’t hold you back
- And the most important shift: stop thinking about selling, start thinking about helping
Detach from Outcomes and Trust the Process
You can’t control whether someone says yes. You can’t control their timing, budget, or what’s going on in their life.
But you can control how many conversations you start, how often you make offers, and the quality of those interactions.
Think of it like planting seeds. You don’t dig them up every day to check. You water, nurture, and trust the process. Some seeds sprout quickly. Others take months. Some bloom when you least expect it.
Your business works the same way. Every conversation, every offer, every connection is a seed. Not every seed grows but if you keep planting, you’ll always have something sprouting.
A Story of “No” Turning Into “Yes”
I once had a consult with someone who seemed like the perfect client. The conversation went well, but when I invited her to work with me, she said no.
I felt deflated. My brain told me I’d failed.
But instead of giving up, I stayed connected. I checked in now and then, shared something useful, showed I cared.
Three months later, she responded:
“Candy, I’m ready. When can we start?”
That original no wasn’t rejection. It was just not yet.
Reframe Rejection
Here’s the surprising truth: the vast majority of coaches who tell me they don’t have enough clients… aren’t actually making offers.
And it makes sense we worry.
We worry people will think we’re salesy.
We worry they’ll think we’re pushy.
We worry they’ll believe the only reason we’re talking to them is because we want to sign them as a client.
But here’s the reframe: stop thinking about selling, start thinking about helping.
If you can genuinely help someone and you hold back because of your own fear you’re doing both of you a disservice.
An offer isn’t pressure. It’s an invitation: “Here’s how I can help. Would you like this support?”
And if the answer is no? That’s okay.
- Sometimes it’s redirection: they’re not your client, which makes space for the ones who are.
- Sometimes it’s delay: the timing isn’t right… yet.
Either way, no isn’t the end of the story.
Final Thoughts
So if you’ve been afraid to put yourself out there because you’re worried no one will book a call, remember:
- Detach from the outcome, and focus on planting seeds.
- A no today might turn into a yes tomorrow.
- Rejection is never denial it’s redirection or delay.
- And most importantly: making offers is helping.
Your first yes is inevitable if you keep going.
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